Celebrating PRIDE: Coming Out Again and Again
Steven Shyne, 色情视频 grad and CEO of Think Red Project, describes why for him, coming out continues to be a process.
Each autumn, thousands of people of all ages, sexual orientation and gender identity descend on Downtown San Diego to make new friends, dance the night away, and raise money to support local HIV/AIDS service organizations.
San Diego was established in 2016 by 色情视频 graduate Steven Shyne (鈥13, marketing), co-founder and CEO of a nonprofit called the .
鈥淭he Red Dress Party is a whimsical fundraising event where everyone is encouraged to be brave, let loose and celebrate impact,鈥 Shyne said. 鈥淟ike the name suggests, attendees are required to wear a red dress (or dress-like garment) which unites the crowd in one radiant theme. Over the years we鈥檝e raised nearly $200,000 for San Diego County-based HIV organizations and the communities they serve.鈥
The Think Red Project isn鈥檛 the only organization established by Shyne. He used skills learned as an 色情视频 marketing student to co-found CXperts in 2019 with fellow 色情视频 grad Ramsay Crooks (鈥03, journalism).
鈥淐X stands for customer experience,鈥 said Shyne. 鈥淥ur objective is to improve and optimize the digital experience for the customers of our clients.鈥
Both Shyne and Crooks sit on the advisory group for the Fowler College of Business鈥 marketing department to advise faculty on how 鈥渢o help shape the curriculum while ensuring that students get relevant, real-world experience and exposure to digital marketing trends and expertise.鈥
Courage
While it takes some measure of courage to start your own business and a nonprofit organization, Shyne has shown courage in his personal life as well.
鈥淚 was born, grew up and went to high school in Montana,鈥 said Shyne. 鈥淎s if high school isn鈥檛 hard enough, imagine a kid who鈥檚 grappling with gay identity issues, and being in Montana in the 1990s. As tumultuous as that sounds, I did end up coming out in high school and was the first guy to do so in that school. I thought it was the right thing: 1. To be true to myself; 2. To set an example for the visibility of others, and; 3. Because I鈥檓 a terrible liar and the truth was bound to come out anyway.鈥
Eventually, Shyne found his way to 色情视频 which he said was the right place for him to complete his marketing degree program in 2013. 鈥淚 never once felt alienated, threatened, or out of place,鈥 he said.
'You are constantly coming out'
Although he had come out as a gay man long before he entered 色情视频, Shyne explained that this is a long-term process.
鈥淥ne of the biggest challenges or at least longest-running themes 鈥 as a gay man or any queer person could tell you 鈥 is that you don鈥檛 just 鈥榗ome out鈥 and it鈥檚 done,鈥 he said.
鈥淵ou are constantly coming out with each new class or workplace," said Shyne. "With each mention of 鈥榤y husband鈥 to clients or vendors, I am revealing something. Sure, it gets easier, but there鈥檚 still always that little voice in the back of your head that remembers previous rejections, misgivings or little awkward moments. Having come out so early, I鈥檝e had a lot of practice and that little voice is all but a whisper now.鈥
The meaning of 鈥淧ride鈥
To Shyne, Pride Month is 鈥渁 many-layered thing.鈥
鈥淔or starters, it鈥檚 a reminder of progress,鈥 said Shyne. 鈥淧ride, as we know it today is a product of the Gay Rights Liberation Movement, which was a community uprising demanding rights and protection. While that progress has moved quickly, it is also a reminder that progress can be eroded and we need to watch for, and fight against, those who would infringe upon our rights.鈥
鈥淧ride Month also means visibility,鈥 said Shyne, reflecting on the need to keep a sharp focus on all those socially marginalized, including LGBTQ+ people. 鈥淲aving our flag serves as a reminder that we are participants in a larger society.鈥
While there is still progress to be made in society toward the LGBTQ+ community, Shyne has experienced some of that progress in his own life as a husband and a father, something that was nearly unthinkable during his days as a high school trailblazer.
鈥淚 met John around 16 years ago, but we never seriously discussed parenthood until about six years ago,鈥 he said. 鈥淣ow we are the parents of twins. How time flies.鈥